Swinging sex and a womans thoughts

For some couples, the idea of having sex with anyone other than your significant other seems unfathomable. But believe it or not, it can, and there are more couples interested in doing it than you may realize. Below, four women get real about what their own swinging experiences were really like. My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club. Not all experiences were percent pleasurable, so we made an effort to have those conversations and keep the lines of communication open.

We have been together for a decade, married for years. We tell each other just about everything and there is no one I like hanging out with more than my husband. This space is so safe, so sacred, and so honest that it has given permission to the expression of innermost longings, fantasies, and daydreams. Is it a betrayal of feminism? This deep security in the commitment and safety of our marriage has enabled awesome sexual exploration. That was new.

Verified by Psychology Today. The Swinging Paradigm. I hear this often from people who know of my research with the swinging population, which they consider deviant and suspicious. I have compiled hundreds and hundreds of hours of interviews with couples in the swinging lifestyle, and one of my first questions is, how did the couple get involved in the swinging lifestyle, and how is the wife handling it?

One of the biggest misconceptions from those outside the swinging arena is that women are forced into the lifestyle by their husbands or partners. Granted, one spouse might bring up the subject of swinging, but maintaining an active role in the swinging lifestyle is definitely a consensual agreement between both partners. Would I have ever given swinging a try had John not already been involved? Probably not, as I never even knew there was such a thing.